Here we are in a New Year full of new possibilities. Forgive me, but I’m going to buck convention here
a little and tell you NOT to make New Year’s resolutions. I say this for a very good reason. We put way too much emphasis and importance of Jan
1st. Every Dec 31st
we make a vow to completely reinvent ourselves.
New Year, New You. But the sad
fact is that by February 80% of us will have abandoned those resolutions. Once broken, we won’t even try to get back on
track. We’ll throw up our hands and
resign ourselves to try again next year.
Sad, but true. If that in some way
disappoints you, here’s a truth that might help. You were okay to begin with. You have friends and family that love you
because of (and at times in spite of) who you already are. Becoming a completely different person
betrays the idiosyncrasies that make you wonderfully unique. I myself eat food that’s bad for me, let
laundry pile up until I’m down to my last pair of socks, and dream of a world
where people spontaneously break into song and dance. It’s
who I am and I own it.
Now, I’m not saying change is a terrible thing. I’m slowly trying to change my diet and I now
exercise regularly (the laundry can wait).
But the fact is that I didn’t make those changes because of an arbitrary
date of the Gregorian calendar. I did it
because it was time. I decided I don’t
want to die so I took steps to avert an early demise. I made that decision on a Tuesday. November 3, 2015 to be exact. See, change doesn’t have to happen on January
1st, or the first of the month, or on a Monday. It happens the minute you say yes to
yourself. If there is something you
truly dislike about yourself, then make the decision to SLOWLY correct that
behavior or aspect. But be
reasonable. When I decided to change my
diet and activity level I didn’t resolve to make it onto America’s Next Top
Model. My resolution was to avoid having
a heart attack and dying. So far,
mission accomplished.
I should also note that I made the decision to change for
completely self-serving reasons. I didn’t
do so to gain friends or lovers (which is good because it hasn’t worked, damn
it). I didn’t do it because someone else
harped on me to change. I did it because
my mom died early as did her mother, and her mother’s mother, and so on for the
past 5 generations. I don’t want to be
next. I changed for myself. Change that is made to appease someone else’s
desire is unfulfilling and destined to fail.
Anyone who tries to force change on you obviously doesn’t love or
understand you.
We can all agree that, for the most part, 2016 was a pretty
lousy year. It’s fine to want to leave
last year’s baggage behind as the clock strikes midnight. It’s great in theory, but this year let’s try
to be more realistic. And just in case you
should falter on those champagne induced pledges, remember that every day is itself a new beginning and a chance to try again. Even on a Tuesday. So feel free to try a different shade of
lipstick, go commando once just to say you have, or, should the mood strike
you, spontaneously break into song and dance.
Make it the best Tuesday ever.
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